I believe you may be attacking my wording rather then my meaning but I figured I'd get that out of the way first.Johannes wrote:You need excuses to meet people?SinbadEV wrote:Oh, I forgot to mention... make sure you have established a long term relationship by the time you reach the end of your formal education because the difficulty in finding excuses to meet people increases dramatically from that point on.
After college you still have options, for example bars, clubs, your workplace, church and other organized religion based gatherings, comic book stores, the produce section of super markets, parties etc... but these avenues were all available to students in addition to dorms, classes, cafeterias etc. and far fewer trips to bars, clubs and parties etc.
If you were attacking my choice of words. No, if you want to be literal, I don't need an "excuse" to meet people. But it helps to have a "context" in which to meet people, especially for introverted people.
I currently have 4 (essential) categories of friends, College and School Friends, Former and Current Workplace/Commitee Friends, Friends of Other Friends or Family Members, and Church Friends. I have never befriended someone on the street and none of my "Neighbour" friends continued to be my friends after I moved... I have never made a friend at a Bar or Club, I have only made a few friends at Parties and these were always "friends of friends"... I did make some friends at camp, but it was church camp so they are basically church friends... and people don't tend to go to camp much in their 20s... Also consider it is considered taboo to date co-workers in most work-places in north America (ignoring unskilled labour, retail and food service etc.).
I guess what I'm trying to say is that the available contexts to meet single people (and the number of single people your age) drops significantly when you leave formal education.
